Tuesday, February 27, 2007

narcissism

By DAVID CRARY, AP National WriterTue Feb 27, 12:32 AM ET
Today's college students are more narcissistic and self-centered than their predecessors, according to a comprehensive new study by five psychologists who worry that the trend could be harmful to personal relationships and American society.
"We need to stop endlessly repeating 'You're special' and having children repeat that back," said the study's lead author, Professor Jean Twenge of San Diego State University. "Kids are self-centered enough already."
Twenge and her colleagues, in findings to be presented at a workshop Tuesday in San Diego on the generation gap, examined the responses of 16,475 college students nationwide who completed an evaluation called the Narcissistic Personality Inventory between 1982 and 2006.
The standardized inventory, known as the NPI, asks for responses to such statements as "If I ruled the world, it would be a better place," "I think I am a special person" and "I can live my life any way I want to."
The researchers describe their study as the largest ever of its type and say students' NPI scores have risen steadily since the current test was introduced in 1982. By 2006, they said, two-thirds of the students had above-average scores, 30 percent more than in 1982.
Narcissism can have benefits, said study co-author W. Keith Campbell of the University of Georgia, suggesting it could be useful in meeting new people "or auditioning on 'American Idol.'"
"Unfortunately, narcissism can also have very negative consequences for society, including the breakdown of close relationships with others," he said.
The study asserts that narcissists "are more likely to have romantic relationships that are short-lived, at risk for infidelity, lack emotional warmth, and to exhibit game-playing, dishonesty, and over-controlling and violent behaviors."
Twenge, the author of "Generation Me: Why Today's Young Americans Are More Confident, Assertive, Entitled — and More Miserable Than Ever Before," said narcissists tend to lack empathy, react aggressively to criticism and favor self-promotion over helping others.
The researchers traced the phenomenon back to what they called the "self-esteem movement" that emerged in the 1980s, asserting that the effort to build self-confidence had gone too far.
As an example, Twenge cited a song commonly sung to the tune of "Frere Jacques" in preschool: "I am special, I am special. Look at me."
"Current technology fuels the increase in narcissism," Twenge said. "By its very name, MySpace encourages attention-seeking, as does YouTube."
Some analysts have commended today's young people for increased commitment to volunteer work. But Twenge viewed even this phenomenon skeptically, noting that many high schools require community service and many youths feel pressure to list such endeavors on college applications.
Campbell said the narcissism upsurge seemed so pronounced that he was unsure if there were obvious remedies.
"Permissiveness seems to be a component," he said. "A potential antidote would be more authoritative parenting. Less indulgence might be called for."
The new report follows a study released by UCLA last month which found that nearly three-quarters of the freshmen it surveyed thought it was important to be "very well-off financially." That compared with 62.5 percent who said the same in 1980 and 42 percent in 1966.
Yet students, while acknowledging some legitimacy to such findings, don't necessarily accept negative generalizations about their generation.
Hanady Kader, a University of Washington senior, said she worked unpaid last summer helping resettle refugees and considers many of her peers to be civic-minded. But she is dismayed by the competitiveness of some students who seem prematurely focused on career status.
"We're encouraged a lot to be individuals and go out there and do what you want, and nobody should stand in your way," Kader said. "I can see goals and ambitions getting in the way of other things like relationships."
Kari Dalane, a University of Vermont sophomore, says most of her contemporaries are politically active and not overly self-centered.
"People are worried about themselves — but in the sense of where are they're going to find a place in the world," she said. "People want to look their best, have a good time, but it doesn't mean they're not concerned about the rest of the world."
Besides, some of the responses on the narcissism test might not be worrisome, Dalane said. "It would be more depressing if people answered, 'No, I'm not special.'"

Saturday, February 24, 2007

we love jesus

Sat Feb 24, 3:18 PM ET

A Catholic school principal has organized sensitivity training for students who shouted "We love Jesus" during a basketball game against a school with Jewish students.
The word "Jew" also was painted on a gym wall behind the seats of Bishop Sullivan Catholic High School students attending the Feb. 2 game at Norfolk Academy, said Dennis W. Price, principal of the Virginia Beach school.
Price who also watched the game, said the rivals exchanged chants, "Then, at some point, our students were chanting, 'We love Jesus.'"
"It was obviously in reference to the Jewish population of Norfolk Academy; that's the only way you can take that," he added.
Price said he sent a letter of apology to Norfolk. Dennis G. Manning, the academy's headmaster, declined to comment.
Several Sullivan students met with Norfolk Academy's cultural diversity club Thursday as part of a series of events aimed at promoting tolerance, Price said.
He has arranged for the Virginia Conference for Community and Justice and the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater to work with students.
A message left for the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater was not immediately returned Saturday.
Price also has consulted the Anti-Defamation League, a national group that fights anti-Semitism.
"It is important that we work harder at having students leaving here who are tolerant and understand how serious these kinds of things are," said Price, who said diversity training will be incorporated permanently at Sullivan.

Thursday, February 22, 2007

catch-22

11 THINGS: Catch-22

Thursday, February 22, 2007

1. Orr: "Orr would be crazy to fly more missions and sane if he didn't, but if he was sane he had to fly them. If he flew them he was crazy and didn't have to; but if he didn't want to, he was sane and had to." Example: Frank Chu (vacationing in Sweden).

2. Col. Cathcart: The group commander who desperately wants to become a general. He does whatever it takes. Example: Job applicants (without any job experience).

3. Major Major Major Major: "Some men are born mediocre, some men achieve mediocrity, and some men have mediocrity thrust upon them. With Major Major Major Major it had been all three." Example: The Warriors Warriors Warriors Warriors.

4. Milo Minderbender: His main goals were to expand mess operations and make profits for the syndicate. Example: Employees at Parsons, KBR or Halliburton.

5. Nately: His family originally enlisted him to serve in the Air Corps, believing that the war would be over by the time he finished his training and that he would mingle with "gentlemen." Example: Hmm ... I wonder.

6. Clevinger: "The case against Clevinger was open and shut. The only thing missing was something to charge him with." Example: "Scooter" Libby.

7. Doc Daneeka: The doctor who responds to patients' complaints by telling them his own troubles. Example: Your therapist's therapist's therapist's therapist.

8. Mudd: Because he had no time to be officially checked in, he was never there. Examples: Affordable housing, nonbinding measures.

9. Chaplain Tappman: "The first time Yossarian saw the chaplain he fell madly in love with him." Example: Sen. Obama.

10. Dunbar: "Old? I'm not old." "You're inches away from death every time you go on a mission. How much older can you be at your age?" Example: The troops.

11. Yossarian: "He had decided to live forever or die in the attempt, and his only mission each time he went up was to come down alive." Examples: Truth and hope.

Tim Sullivan, tsullivan@sfchronicle.com

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Friday, February 16, 2007

war away from war

My War Away From War

By AYUB NURI

I WILL always remember last Aug. 13 as one of the best days of my life. On that day, after 47 days of waiting, and just four days before classes were to begin at Columbia, where I had received a scholarship, I was granted an American visa. Not only would I be able to fulfill my dream of studying in the United States, but I would also find some peace.
I am an Iraqi, and although I love my country, I needed to get out. I thought the 13-hour flight and the oceans would distance me from the tragic reality of the war. But on my first day in New York, I realized that I had not left the war. Rather, it had followed me here, and I had to fight it every day.
Every time I talked to someone at a party, in a taxi or at the store, the same chain of questions would follow after I said I was from Iraq. Some people gaped. Others sat silent for a second, then shook my hand differently. “Wow, so interesting,” they would say. “So what do you think of the whole situation? What went wrong over there?” Finally, the inevitable: “Do you think we should pull out?”
At school happy hours, while everyone was socializing and enjoying their drinks, I found myself having to explain the insurgency, the sectarian violence and what I thought would happen if American troops withdrew from Iraq. That was the question that troubled me most.
To me, it sounded like a question that only the defense secretary should be contemplating. Did people here feel entitled to ask it because they had voted for this government, and they therefore felt responsible for their government’s policies? I decided to think this was the reason, and it consoled me.
Soon, there was another question that began to trouble me. It mostly came from Arabs or other Muslims I encountered. “Who is behind these killings?” they would ask.
“It is difficult to point to a specific group,” I would tell them. “But most of the killings are perpetrated by Iraqis themselves, Shiites and Sunnis. I have witnessed it with my own eyes.”
But they were never satisfied with my answers. Most of them blamed America for everything. I agree that the American army is part of the problem, but Iraqi militias are now responsible for most of the killings.
Explaining the complexity of the situation in Iraq to everyone I met made me tired, and after a while I did not enjoy meeting people anymore. I stopped going to happy hour. I wished I could have a conversation about a different subject — American history or the American electoral system — but it rarely happened.
I realize now that there simply is no way for me to escape the bitterness of this war. It has become part of my life. One night, after a dinner party with some classmates, I turned on my computer to read my e-mail messages. The first message I opened was from Iraq. It carried the news of the death of a dear friend of mine. He was killed by a car bomb in Baghdad. I cried most of the night. A few days later I erased his e-mail address from my address book.
A month later, my phone rang very early in the morning. The voice on the other end told me that another close friend — a reporter in Ramadi — was killed while covering a story in Baghdad. I mourned alone in my apartment.
I slept very well my first two nights in New York and had no dreams, but I think it was because of the jetlag. The rest of my nights have been full of dreams and nightmares.
In one dream I am stuck in Falluja and I can’t get out. I am on the ledge of a high wall that separates the American soldiers from insurgents. They both see me and are ready to shoot.
In another dream I am kidnapped by the Iraqi Army and thrown into a dungeon with a foreign reporter. In yet another, I go to Baghdad and find the streets empty. There are only roofless houses and ruined walls.
When I wake up, I remember that I am in New York City, and I feel at peace. But that little escape from the nightmare of the war does not last long. At some point during the day I will have to give another war lecture. No matter how I perceive the war, no matter how many more friends I lose, no matter who is killing whom, as long as there is a war, I have to live with its nightmares and fight them thousands of miles away.

Ayub Nuri, a former reporter for the Institute for War and Peace Reporting, is a student at Columbia’s Graduate School of Journalism.

Thursday, February 15, 2007

robots mating (with aliens)

11 THINGS: Robots Mating (with Aliens)

Thursday, February 15, 2007

1. "The Robots" / Kraftwerk (1978): "Ja tvoi sluga, (I'm your slave)/ ja tvoi Rabotnik (I'm your worker) ..."
Mates with: Mannequins.
Produces: Agitprop.

2. "Uncontrollable Urge" / Devo (1978): "Got an urge got a surge/ And it's out of control ..."
Mates with: Excitement.
Produces: Uncontrollable urge.

3. "Mr. Roboto" / Styx (1983): "I'm not a robot without emotions/ I'm not what you see ..."
Mates with: Near future.
Produces: Screwed workers.

4. "Philip K. Dick in the Pet Section of a Wal-Mart" / Man or Astro-Man? (1995):
Mates with: Yesterday.
Produces: Tomorrow.

5. "Earth People" / Dr. Octagon (1996): "Earth people, New York and California/ Earth people, I was born on Jupiter ..."
Mates with: Kool Keith.
Produces: Black Elvis.

6. "Intergalactic" / Beastie Boys (1998): "Another dimension new galaxy/ Intergalactic planetary ..."
Mates with: Dance floor.
Produces: Pinch on neck of Mr. Spock.

7. "Livin' Astro" / Black Elvis (1999): "Flying saucers, spaceships move at warp speed/ MTV level three when I fly on BET/ Livin' astro, tell me how you feel/ One two, one two ..."
Mates with: Kool Keith.
Produces: Dr. Octagon.

8. "Roboshuffle" / Kid Koala (2000):
Mates with: Turntable.
Produces: More mating.

9. "Yoshimi Battles the Pink Robots" / the Flaming Lips (2002): " 'Cause she knows that it'd be tragic if those evil robots win ..."
Mates with: "She Don't Use Jelly."
Produces: Strange pleasure.

10. "Hell Yes" / Beck (2005): "Hell yes/ I'm movin this way/ I'm doin this thing/ (Please enjoy) ..."
Mates with: Dream Robots.
Produces: More questions about Dianetics.

11. 01101001 (2019): "0110000101101101."
Mates with: 01100001
Produces: 01110010011011110110001001101111011101000000110100001010.

Tim Sullivan, tsullivan@sfchronicle.com

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Thursday, February 08, 2007

jury duty

11 THINGS: Jury Duty

Thursday, February 8, 2007

1. 12:55 p.m. Arrive at Hall of Justice for my 1 p.m. appointment, and the first thing I see is a line to the horizon extending slightly beyond oblivion. I briefly ponder hailing a cab and fleeing, but instead walk slowly to the very end of the line. I'm not even in the building yet, and I'm already discouraged.

2. 1:05 p.m. Arrive back at the place where I was at 12:55 p.m.

3. 1:11 p.m. Pockets are emptied on the hard, wooden table near the metal detector. Coins hit the floor and flee. I smile nervously and head for the elevator.

4. 1:15 p.m. Finally arrive in the promised land. After kissing the ground, I am eyed suspiciously and told to have a seat and wait. We watch an "instructional" video about the joys of jury duty. (We, the jurors, declare this video guilty of not being serious.) My name is eventually called. I jump up and head down to the courtroom. Another line forms.

5. 1:34 p.m. My name is called again. I say, "Here," but I no longer really mean it. I go back to counting the holes in the ceiling. The judge reads and rereads the rules like a stewardess giving seat belt instructions at the beginning of a flight. The difference is: We're not going anywhere.

6. 1:59 p.m. Someone subjectively points out the impossibility of objectivity. As the judge smiles, I feel myself begin to drift ...

7. 2:04 p.m. "It is April 43, 2000. Today is a day of great triumph. There is a king of Spain. He has been found at last. That king is me. I only discovered this today."

8. 2:10 p.m. I look across the room and squint. Don Quixote and Sancho Panza are quietly discussing something. Mona Lisa is smiling. Dave Barry is laughing.

9. 2:14 p.m. My phone vibrates. Valentine's Day is attempting to call me, but I'm not allowed to answer.

10. 3:33 p.m. "I've seen things you people wouldn't believe. Attack ships on fire off the shoulder of Orion. I watched C-beams glitter in the dark near the Tannhauser Gate."

11. 4:30 p.m. I am 117 years old. My great-great-grandchildren are in junior high school now. I have read and reread "War and Peace" and "Crime and Punishment" and, yes, I am still here ... on jury duty. Kafka mentions that it's time to go. I get up very slowly. A guy by the name of Sartre taps me on the shoulder and asks if I happen to know where the exit is.

Tim Sullivan, tsullivan@sfchronicle.com

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Thursday, February 01, 2007

groundhog day

11 Things: Groundhog Day

Thursday, February 1, 2007

1. If Punxsutawney Phil sees his shadow in Gobbler's Knob on Friday morning, there will be six more weeks of winter. Unfortunately for us, Phil has seen his shadow 96 times since 1887.

2. If he does not see his shadow, there will be an early spring. We have no sensible system of seasons here in California, so there will be no sensible system in the predictions that follow.

3. If he sees it, you will not pass Go, you will not collect $200 and you will frequently get stuck in Bay Bridge traffic for the next six weeks.

4. If he does not, you will pass Go, hop on BART and have a joyously smooth commute for the next six weeks. You will smile more frequently.

5. If he sees it, you will take a short walk on Market Street between Fifth and Eighth while listening to "Once in a Lifetime" and neurotically focusing on the part that repeats "same as it ever was." You will later get a citation for feeding the pigeons.

6. If he does not, you will take a long walk along the Embarcadero while listening to "A Clean Break." You will spot a random cooing dove or two. You will then find yourself eating the best meal of your life ... and having someone else pay for it.

7. If he sees it, you will continue avoiding laundry while randomly purchasing new underwear instead.

8. If he does not, you will vow to do all of your laundry today, including sheets, pillowcases, bedspreads and everything in between. You will also vacuum like a madman. Spring will be here soon and you need to be ready.

9. If he sees it, you will review this year's State of the Union address before lowering the shades and drifting back to sleep. As you drift, you will listen to "The Song Remains the Same" and wonder why you're frowning at the part that goes "California sunlight, sweet Calcutta rain, Honolulu starbright -- the song remains the same."

10. If he does not, you will listen to "Here Comes the Sun" and write a brilliant letter to your representatives in Washington. You will "cc" the editors at your local newspaper.

11. If he sees it, you will smash your alarm clock tomorrow morning and every morning for the next six weeks. You will then purchase a new alarm clock each day ... but not until you're done purchasing more new underwear.

Tim Sullivan, tsullivan@sfchronicle.com
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